We journey with people from this point…
Suffering from painful guilt and self hatred
With intense fear of rejection and abandonment, masked by independence or people-pleasing
Feels like she/he is too much or is never enough
Hyper vigilant always scanning for danger in tone, expressions, and reaction
Suffering from painful thoughts of failure, criticism, self-hatred and painful envy
Has secret suppressed rage and ashamed of it.
Overachiever, perfectionist, high-functioning but anxious, critical, exhausted & feels empty
Tends to attract or in a relationship with emotionally unavailable, manipulative, abusive people
Dissociate or shut down or rage during conflict
Stays in painful, abusive & deprived situation even if advised otherwise
May be caring for her parents or siblings out of obligation
Has shallow or toxic friendships — she doesn’t know how to receive love
Often the “listener” or “rescuer” in the group
Longs for a safe, emotionally intimate relationship but doesn’t believe she deserves it
Trust issues; may isolate when overwhelmed
In survival, helpless, victim mode.
Feels like he/she was abandoned by God
Struggles to trust and respect authorities
To this :)
Someone significantly healed from pain of rejection and abandonment that decisions are no longer fueled by this pain but by love and purpose.
Someone seeing pain from a sound judgement. Taking ownership of the situation and consequences, without hurting the self and others. They transform pain into something good, not settle on it. They can dialogue and revere God in the midst of pain
Someone who is significantly secure and not desperate for external validation, understands his/her value and purpose.
Someone who is not afraid of silence nor of the crowd. They trust that their identity will and purpose will protect them and that everything happens for the good
Someone who can identify and regulate their thoughts and feelings and move according to their identity and values. Can handle deep feelings including pain and intimacy. They are motivated by peace & purpose not by unhealed anxiety.
Someone who processed and healed from all rage, shame and other pain of the past, so they can handle the present moment without the bias of past experiences.
Excellent & fruitful not out of fear but out of dependence, guidance & obedience to the Holy Spirit
Empathetic & communicates boundaries well & considerately
Strong because they know when & how to receive help, does not despise weakness. They understand capacity & teamwork and Spirit’s internal leading
They understand conflict and offense & not take it personally, they know how to deal with it the prayerfully, skillfully & lovingly
Have realistic expectation with people, know how to communicate when overwhelmed.
Working on their relationships to be secure, safe and life giving
They allow discomfort wisely, they can handle their impulses and the urge to rescue people prayerfully
Respects the self, own needs and desires as well as others’ and submits it to God
Someone who can see spiritual authorities with human frailties as well and not project their Mommy & Daddy issues. They understands the benefits of blessing them
Has the capacity to receive forgiveness from God, self and others and can forgive self and others as well.
Someone who don’t perform in front of God and others, can receive compliment and help and has high sense of belonging.
Someone who is secure, pays the price and knows how to keep the in their relationship with God
Make it stand out.
Suffering from painful guilt and self hatred
With intense fear of rejection and abandonment, masked by independence or people-pleasing
Feels like she/he is too much or is never enough
Hyper vigilant always scanning for danger in tone, expressions, and reaction
Suffering from painful thoughts of failure, criticism, self-hatred and painful envy
Has secret suppressed rage and ashamed of it.
Overachiever, perfectionist, high-functioning but anxious, critical, exhausted & feels empty
Tends to attract or in a relationship with emotionally unavailable, manipulative, abusive people
Dissociate or shut down or rage during conflict
Stays in painful, abusive & deprived situation even if advised otherwise
May be caring for her parents or siblings out of obligation
Has shallow or toxic friendships — she doesn’t know how to receive love
Often the “listener” or “rescuer” in the group
Longs for a safe, emotionally intimate relationship but doesn’t believe she deserves it
Trust issues; may isolate when overwhelmed
In survival, helpless, victim mode.
Feels like he/she was abandoned by God
Struggles to trust and respect authorities
Someone seeing pain from a sound judgement. Taking ownership of the situation and consequences, without hurting the self and others. They transform pain into something good, not settle on it. They can dialogue and revere God in the midst of pain
Someone significantly healed from pain of rejection and abandonment that decisions are no longer fueled by this pain but by love and purpose.
Someone who is significantly secure and not desperate for external validation, understands his/her value and purpose.
Someone who is not afraid of silence nor of the crowd. They trust that their identity will and purpose will protect them and that everything happens for the good
Someone who can identify and regulate their thoughts and feelings and move according to their identity and values. Can handle deep feelings including pain and intimacy. They are motivated by peace & purpose not by unhealed anxiety.
Someone who processed and healed from all rage, shame and other pain of the past, so they can handle the present moment without the bias of past experiences.
Excellent & fruitful not out of fear but out of dependence, guidance & obedience to the Holy Spirit
Empathetic & communicates boundaries well & considerately
Strong because they know when & how to receive help, does not despise weakness. They understand capacity & teamwork and Spirit’s internal leading
They understand conflict and offense & not take it personally, they know how to deal with it the prayerfully, skillfully & lovingly
Have realistic expectation with people, know how to communicate when overwhelmed.
Working on their relationships to be secure, safe and life giving
They allow discomfort wisely, they can handle their impulses and the urge to rescue people prayerfully
Respects the self, own needs and desires as well as others’ and submits it to God
Someone who can see spiritual authorities with human frailties as well and not project their Mommy & Daddy issues. They understands the benefits of blessing them
Has the capacity to receive forgiveness from God, self and others and can forgive self and others as well.
Someone who don’t perform in front of God and others, can receive compliment and help and has high sense of belonging.
Someone who is secure, pays the price and knows how to keep the in their relationship with God